It’s time to learn how to not give a fuck when it comes to women and dating.
This is a very important yet often overlooked topic. But learning how to stop caring what other people think of you can be immensely helpful in your dating life.
I’ll explain this phenomenon in great depth below and show you how you can stop giving a fuck when it really matters. I’ll also make it very clear how this attitude can be super helpful around women so they find you more attractive.
The “how to not giving a fuck” mindset
First off, not giving a fuck around women is closely tied to the abundance mentality.
Imagine you have plenty of women in your life because you’re awesome.
Even better, imagine you have several fuckbuddies for every day of the week. You can call them up whenever you want, invite them over and have sex as much as you’d like.
But wait, I’ll do you one even better: Imagine you can walk up to any attractive girl you see and then introduce yourself to her confidently. Then you can have a good time with her, create sexual tension and finally seduce her.
Basically, imagine believing there are plenty of fish in the sea and that you can get a girlfriend or lover anytime you want.
Knowing this, would you then be afraid or feel anxious when talking to women?
Would you be afraid to tease women, joke around, make them mad, argue with them, challenge them, oppose their views and, dare I say it, walk away from them if they’re being rude or obnoxious?
Of course, you wouldn’t!
If you had many women in your life, you wouldn’t give a damn if some of them gave you attitude. You also wouldn’t tolerate bullshit, bad behavior and rudeness from women.
That’s because you wouldn’t think of women as a scarce commodity. So you’d never be afraid of “losing them.” As a result, you’d stop being a nervous mess around women in an instant.
If a girl rejects you, you wouldn’t even flinch or think twice. You’d just move on and go talk to someone else you find attractive.
All of this breeds unflinching confidence within you, as well as high standards. This is massively attractive.
Here’s how to not give a fuck when you’re around women
So how do you do it? How do you behave this way around women?
Well, the first step is to think really hard about all of the above. And then repeat the following to yourself:
There are plenty of single women in the world. Some of them will like me, and some of them won’t. Nothing’s stopping me from approaching them, finding out who they are and dating them. If they reject me, I’ll learn from my mistakes and move on to someone else.
When you internalize this mindset of abundance with women, your life’s going to change.
You’ll lose your fear of talking to women. You won’t be nervous around them anymore, and you won’t hesitate to get closer to them.
You also won’t be afraid of walking away from women who are bad for you. It’s because you know that there are tons of other women in the world who aren’t mean or malicious.
And, most importantly, you won’t be afraid to give it your all. You can flirt with and tease women by being unabashedly yourself. You’ll be safe in the knowledge that there are more than enough women to go around. And as long as you focus on improving yourself, many of them will like you.
If you assume and internalize this mindset around women and people in general, you’ll exude a confident and calm vibe.
As a result, women will never see you as someone who’s desperate or needy.
When you learn how to not give a fuck, you will instantly stop being a desperate and insecure boy. Instead, you’ll become a man who has standards and clear boundaries. That’s massively attractive to any and all women.
It’s all in your head
The hardest part of internalizing the “not give a fuck” mindset lies in convincing yourself you can do it.
Most guys start from not being very good with women. As a result, most guys don’t have that many women in their lives.
If you’re a guy who’s single and lonely and you don’t have many women, is it even possible to have this mentality?
The answer is a definite “YES!”
I’m sure you’ve heard of “fake it till you make it.”
Normally, it’s not a very good idea to pretend to be someone you’re not. Guys who do that are often being disingenuous and inauthentic. That’s not very attractive.
However, when it comes to not giving a fuck, “fake it till you make it” can be immensely helpful.
You don’t have to go around telling people you’re a chick magnet who has many lovers. That would be blatant lying, and you don’t want to be a liar.
Instead, all you have to do is imagine this in your own head and it will do the trick.
By doing this, you’ll instantly start behaving in a different manner. When you see a woman, your confidence in yourself will make you think, “She looks great, but is she a fun and interesting person? Would I like to hang out with her? Let’s find out! If not, then that’s too bad — I’ll go find someone else!”
Having thoughts like these when you’re approaching and talking to women will make a world of difference.
When you think this before you approach, you’ll never act needy around women. Your body language will become more confident and relaxed. The way you make eye contact will become stronger and more intense. And your anxiety will start to evaporate little by little until it’s gone.
Stop giving a fuck like a bad boy
I’ve already mentioned in another article how you can be a bad boy whom women will love.
Well, not giving a fuck is the kind of behavior bad boys are famous for. And it’s one of the biggest reasons women find them so attractive.
Something we can learn from these bad boys is realizing you can’t please everyone. You can’t make everyone like you, no matter how hard you try.
That’s because no matter who you are, no matter how great you look or how charismatic you sound, some people just aren’t going to like you. And there’s nothing you can do about it except accept this fact.
However, too many guys make the awful mistake of believing they have to do everything possible to make a girl like them.
As a result, men try their hardest to impress women. They also never argue or express their strong opinions. They’re terrified of making women mad at them.
You see, women have zero respect for wimpy men who can’t stand up for themselves. And they sure as hell don’t respect men who are afraid of them.
So let me put this as clearly as possible: As long as you’re terrified of offending women, ruffling their feathers and disagreeing with them, you won’t get very far. You won’t be able to stir emotions in women.
Women want strong men in their lives. They want men who can make them feel great and aren’t afraid to challenge them. They don’t want timid little boys who are boring and run away at the first sign of confrontation.
Just don’t be an asshole
Bad boys who don’t give a fuck can teach us a lot of things, especially when it comes to creating raw, gut-level attraction with women.
However, it’s very easy to take things too far with this and become a real jerk.
So while you’re learning how to not give a fuck, remember to always check yourself. That way, you won’t become a genuine asshole whom people actually hate.
There’s a very fine line between not giving a fuck because you’re secure and not giving a fuck because you don’t care how other people feel.
A good example of not giving a fuck around women would be the following: You’re in a group of women and you tell a raunchy joke. Some of them laugh, some chuckle, but one finds it offensive because she doesn’t like sex jokes. And she says if you don’t take your words back, she will hate you.
In this case, it’s entirely her problem. You don’t care what she thinks because it seems like she’s being too sensitive.
A bad example, on the other hand, would be when you’re in the same group and make a sexual joke. But one of the girls there has been sexually abused. She tells you that she doesn’t like these jokes because it reminds her of the abuse.
In this case, you saying you don’t give a shit is just heartless and mean. You’re being an asshole.
So be careful with how you choose to not give a fuck. Show a bit of empathy towards other people. And don’t use it as an excuse to become an evil prick.
Now you know how you can stop giving a fuck the right way when you’re around women. This mindset is incredibly liberating and can help you with dating and women significantly.